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Reframe The Brain

When setting our New Years resolutions at the end of 2019, who would have thought that only a few months later the world would turn upside down forever changing the way we live.

For many of us, 2020 was a year full of challenges, changes and upheavals.

The experience shared by the entire world yielded a polarizing conclusion.

You either sincerely hated 2020 and wished it would leave the party and take all its weird friends with it or, found it to be one of the greatest years of your life.

For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.”

Isaac Newton

A Moment to Choose

If you had either consciously or subconsciously indicated that you wished to make a change in your mindset, the fact that you came across this article is evidence that the universe has your back.

You expressed your desire, the universe heard you and served you up something you asked for.

The first thing we need to do is make the choice that we are choosing to make a change.

Choosing How to See the Glass

Our perception determines our reality, and our reality is not universal.

Sometimes we forget that our point of view is not the same as another’s.

Many moments in life comes down to a choice.

We choose our outcomes to some degree and in having that knowledge we know that we direct our lives in some way.

If you are in the group of folks that wished 2020 never happened, consider for a moment what would happen if, in fact, 2020 was not a waste of a year.

Instead, a moment we collectively decided to prioritize our health and fellow human beings. To become kinder to ourselves and others, and to be more understanding.

A year where instead of all that separates us is at the forefront of conversation, we learnt that our fears, worries and concerns connected us.

Just Sit

Nowadays, we are constantly moving, plugged in or wired up. We fill each moment of the day with things to do, messages to send and shows to watch. We hardly ever have a moment to sit in thought, reflect and take stock of our lives.

Many people pride themselves on their inability to sit still and are always moving around doing something. Although admirable in the effort to not waste any time or energy, something that always takes a back seat is that moment of intentional pausing.

That moment of checking in with yourself and noticing how you are.

Keep a note pad during this time to jot down whatever thoughts come to mind.

Where Attention Goes Energy Flows

Whether you believe in the law of attraction or the power of intention don’t you ever notice that when you focus on something specific like a negative thought pattern or an unpleasant feeling over something that occurred, it stays with you.

It becomes all-encompassing and whenever something bad happens it’s almost made worse by the negative space you are already in.

The tunnel vision you experience when you are locked into a certain thought pattern stops you from seeing anything else.

Take a moment today to sit with your thoughts and without judging or dissecting or trying to investigate the root cause of each thought, just observe.

Observe where your mind takes you, note it down and at the end look for patterns or similarities.

Try and see what most of your time thinking is spent on.

“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” Paulo Coelho. Author of The Alchemist.

The universe doesn’t distinguish between negative and positive thoughts.

We are magnets attracting to us whatever we request with our thoughts.

You are constantly telling the universe what you want, with your thoughts, the things you say and what you choose to focus on.

Now that is not to say “think and you shall receive” but more, where attention goes energy flows.

When we want something, we work extremely hard to achieve those things. Nothing can stand in our way and no problem is too big.

But it is the same when we are caught in a negative thought cycle. Everything is difficult because we already believe it’s difficult and impossible.

When speaking about the problem, if we changed our wording it would also help us to remember that simply changing our perception of a problem, by changing our thoughts and choice of words our perspective changes.

Give This a Try.

Find a comfortable seat away from distractions.

Close your eyes and take a deep breath.

Recite both versions of the sentences below.

Notice how you feel when you recite the different sentences.

Pay attention to any feelings of heaviness when reciting the unhelpful sentence.

Notice any feelings of lightness and optimism when reciting the helpful sentences.

Unhelpful Wording “ I can’t do this.”

Helpful Wording “ I can’t do this yet.”

Unhelpful Wording “ I don’t know what to do.”

Helpful Wording “ I don’t know what to do yet.”

Unhelpful Wording “ I don’t know enough.”

Helpful Wording “ I don’t know enough yet.”

Unhelpful Wording “ I am not where I want to be.”

Helpful Wording “ I am not where I want to be yet.”